This week's topic is
Virginity. Don't worry Connie, there is no need to avert your eyes...
I was born an raised in Utah. I was not, shall we say of the main
persuasion. While being different from most of my classmates made for some interesting experiences, one peer pressure that I never had an issue with was being pressured to have sex. In fact, once the guys I went to high school with were finally allowed to date (at the ripe old age of 16) kissing and holding hands was considered a bit risqué. Dating really only had one purpose, to find your future spouse.
Yeah, that's a lot of pressure. Kinda takes the fun out of dating right?
I wasn't some kind of recluse or anything, I dated. I found people like me, skiers, outsiders, hotties. LOL. I also sampled some of the local wildlife. Unfortunately, dating people of the predominate faith seemed like crossing a stream in the dark with a blindfold, hopping from steeping stone to stepping stone. Aka frustrating. There were just secret rules that I didn't know, understand, or necessarily care about.
On top of that, sex ed just didn't happen. Honestly, if I didn't have open parents, I would never had known anything about sex. We were taught abstinence. That's it. And from what I remember, it may have been mentioned for like 10 minutes one day.
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Side note: What the hell is going on with kids these days?? Having sex in Jr. High? Sexting? Holy crap! -
All this actually was kind of going in one direction. As I was an outsider, I always knew that there were rules that I didn't know about, and strange secrets I wasn't privy to. Initially I was angry and hurt. Like many of the young people that I have met who have moved away from Utah, there was a serious period of pure hatred towards the people who made me different. As that faded over the years, it was replaced by a fascination of sorts. With the distance (and the help of Facebook) I'm able to quietly watch how different the people I went to high school with really are. They are so focused on their families and their babies... I also really like to learn more about different conservative religions. I love to watch reality TV shows like 19 Kids and Counting or my new crack, Sister Wives.
The dynamics of these families are wild! The Duggars seem like the world's most loving family (who knows just how much editing is done, but I like to pretend that a family can actually love each other that much...) and the Sister Wives people are just crazy. Here's the breakdown:
Kody - The "man" of the family. When one wife asked him to think of her being with another man in order for him to understand her jealousy, he told her that the thought of her with a different man was "disgusting " and "vulgar"... He was also surprised when Meri declined to have IF for her
20th wedding anniversary present.
Meri - Kody's first wife. Often states that she loves polygamy, but looks eternally sad. Has only one child, much to the disappointment of Kody. Seems to be the wife most likely to try to make Kody use his brain.
Janelle - 2nd wife and mother of 6. She is the quietest one and works outside of the house.
Christine - 3rd wife, drama queen, and mother of now 6. Was very offended that Kody kissed his 4th wife (Robyn) upon becoming engaged, while she saved her first kiss (and everything else) for her wedding day. She is also the "good cook" of the wives.
"Kissing a married man is not OK, unless you are married to him as well."
Robyn - 4th wife. A divorcée with 3 kid that left the Jessop family. The other wives call her the "trophy wife."
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| The wives... aren't they happy? |
Did I mention that they are currently being investigated for Bigamy??
I guess my virginity post was more about sex in Utah, but yeah, whatever. Lol!
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